*Note before I begin: this post really relates to anyone grieving. Replace the “sibling” word with the relationship(s) you lost. I hope it resonates with everyone who has experienced loss. So now I can begin. “Do you have any siblings?” This question is asked so often in casual conversations, when first meeting someone, in classrooms […]
Would you be surprised if I told you that the day after the funeral is harder on the griever than the actual funeral itself? Well, it’s true. For me, at least, and I presume most others as well. The day of the funeral is kind of like how grievers feel every day. They want to […]
I went back to college (a different one that was in my hometown) approximately 8 months after I witnessed the death of my identical twin. It was a huge step. If you’ve read my post I Slept on My Parents’ Floor for Months, then you know this was big for me. It was August 2011 […]
It was a few days after I witnessed the death of my identical twin sister when I found myself in the waiting room of a counseling center in my hometown. I had never been to a therapist before so I had no idea what to expect. I sat there in a fog in oversized sweatpants […]
I began my deep, indescribably painful grief journey on January 9, 2011. A cold, horrific day that changed me forever. I view myself having two lives. One before this date and one after this date. The world continued to spin and the people continued to move about it. There was no coronavirus when I began […]
Before I begin: I want it to be known that I do not know what infertility is like nor do I know what it is like to lose a child in the second or third trimester. This post reflects my experience with pregnancy loss in the first trimester and what I learned from it. So […]
I think it’s important to note before I begin that I don’t believe there is ever the “right” thing to say. I don’t think anything anyone has ever said to me has been “right.” Believe me, if there were the “right” words, I would be shouting them at the top of a mountain for everyone […]
Yes, I was 20-years-old and sleeping on my parents’ floor. Okay, an ounce of a backstory real quick. The “first night” as a twinless twin, I slept between my parents in their queen size bed as a 20-year-old. And after that night, I slept on the floor at the foot of their bed for months. We […]
Basically these were the only two options my husband had when we first started dating just nearly eight months after I lost my other half: love me or leave me. It was one or the other. Love me or leave me. And nothing in between. I was broken, but not broken enough to know there […]
That’s right. Me. Not you. Not your friend. Not your co-worker. Me. Okay, not really, but for a fraction of time, yes, all about me. Flash back to May 2011, just four months after I lost (what felt like) everything. I was sad, easily triggered, desperate to be “normal,” lonely, traumatized, and just simply going […]
